You have no doubt read a lot about how hard it is to leave the Church of Scientology.
Well, first, you need to know that leaving the Church of Scientology is not the same thing as leaving Scientology. You really cannot “leave Scientology,” any more than you can “leave Mathematics” or “leave Music.” Scientology is a subject, and as such, you have learned it and can elect to apply it or not, just as you can elect to add or subtract or not, or elect to play music or not. You need no license to learn and apply Scientology. Or not. Scientology, as a subject, just is. I know people who “left Scientology” years and years ago, who still use some of the terminology – mainly because it describes certain things so well.
But leaving the Church of Scientology is different. This is the set of organizations that claim to own, protect, and be the only official way to practice or learn the subject of Scientology.
As it turns out, that is not true. It may own the trademarks, but it does not own the subject. There are a lot of Scientologists out there who are practicing (and delivering) Scientology auditing and training, or just plain using it in their own lives who have not been to an official “org” in years.
Before I get to the question at hand – perhaps you may wonder, if the Church is the only place I can safely go up the Bridge, I can’t leave the Church! If I do, then goodbye OT levels! Goodbye future! I’ll be in the hands of squirrels, or worse, wogs!
Well, as it turns out, your fears, while legitimately felt, are truly unfounded. In fact, face it: when was the last time you had real case gain in the Church? When was the last time you had a win on course? Doing the Basics are you? Great! You can read books anywhere. The Basics is not a grade chart action. Are you clear? Not Clear? Clear again? Well, which is it? Did all the auditing you got in the Church go for naught, because after all the Dianetics, all the other actions, even OT levels, you are all of a sudden not Clear? How about your training? Were you forced to retrain because you didn’t do GAT courses? Isn’t that odd? Were LRH’s courses squirrel? Of course not!
When was the last ethics cycle you had? How was it? When was the last time you were asked to donate to an “Ideal Org” or the IAS in lieu of donating for your next grade chart action? Perhaps you were “asked to donate” to get to your next “status” level of the IAS before being invited to your next OT level?
Is this really okay with you?
Do you know how much quality has left the official Church of Scientology over the last several years? Do you know that if you really are in need of real auditing, you can get it? Any time? From people who are real Scientologists?
In actual fact, the squirrels you are afraid of are in the Church of Scientology itself! It is squirrel to force you to do hours and hours of HCO Sec Checks before any OT level. It is squirrel for staff members to be in the RPF for years. It is squirrel to do “fund raising” for an org rather then selling and delivering Scientology services. It is squirrel to extort money from you for IAS contributions before you can do any next level. If you are unsure of this, I invite you to read Marty Rathbun’s blog for proof of this squirreldom. I will be adding examples here from time to time, as well.
So, how do you leave this crazy Church? How can you do it without your life turning upside down and all hell breaking loose? How can you do it without jeopardizing your future bridge or your connections to friends and family?
Well, if you are not on staff or actively on a course, the answer is…
Just don’t go. Stop doing it.
Don’t give any more money to the IAS. No more for courses, no more for “Ideal Orgs.” Just stop the money flow. If you are asked, say you don’t have it. If you have been involved with the Church for a while, that is no lie, that’s for sure.
Don’t show up to events. Just stop going. Don’t say you’re not going – just don’t go.
When you get calls after hours, tell the caller not to call after 6pm – you have to work. Tell them to make a note of it in the CF file. If members of the church call anyway, tell them that you forbid them to call after a set time, and if they still continue to call, tell them that since they refuse to abide by a simple rule to not call after hours, tell them they cannot call at all. Tell them to email you instead, or send regular mail. This will take some time, as from my experience, Church members seem to think they can call you whenever they want, for any reason. How many calls have you gotten at 10pm? 11pm? This is not okay, and it is not unrealistic to ask not to be called incessantly. Tell them that you are glad to get emails, glad to get mail – just tell them “telephones are psychotic” – i.e. quote policy – and ask for their requests in writing. This will be the hardest part of the process, but it is not that hard – fair roads, fair weather, and be firm. Remember that the person calling has probably been taken off post or off course to call after hours, so you are really doing them a favor as well.
As mentioned, this will take a few months.
If you are on course, finish it, and then do as above.
The result: you will be a non-declared Scientologist who is no longer actively supporting the Church of Scientology.
If you are on staff – well, if you want to leave, really do some soul searching as to why, think about (and perhaps write up on your own) your OWs so you stay clean about it (keep the copy, though – the squirrel ethics in the Church orgs misuse this data) and then if you can’t do it anymore, leave. You will survive, and there are lots of friends out here to help. In fact, you will do far better than you think you will.
But for public, this is the way to go. Then, once you are “off the radar,” so to speak, you can go the next step and become an Independent. But that is a topic for another day.
If you are more adventurous, you could start writing KRs on outnesses and send them to RTC, and you could publicly tell Mr. David Miscavige to go to hell. Those are two ways, and I can applaud them. But, if you just want to leave, just leave!
Your Scientologist friends await you.
Let me know what you think, and if you have successfully left the Church of Scientology – please comment and share your skills!